We’ve always had a complicated relationship — haven’t we? “I look like a boy!” I was 15 years old, and the cry left me without meaning to right after I looked in the mirror. My hairstylist, mother, and best friend all rushed to console me — reminding me how beautiful…

On Explaining Surrogacy to My Son, Loss, and Starting Over TW: mentions of miscarriage The thing about surrogacy is that it’s not just you and the intended parents going through the process, it’s your family too. I am at the beginning of my third surrogacy journey but my beautiful boy…

By Christina I was never really one for taking medication for anything unless I was truly suffering. You knew I was in extreme discomfort or pain if you saw me pop a Motrin once in a blue moon. So, it’s not surprising that when I was expecting my first baby…

To Those Who Take Our Children, Some of us grow up with different monsters. Not the boogeyman others know. Not some green-skinned creature that hides under the bed. For some of us, the fear isn’t in some dark matter that jumps out to say “boo.” For some of us —…

To Those Struggling with Being a Liberal Parent in a Conservative State, We’ve all seen and heard plenty of outlandish things: “If It Ain’t White It Ain’t Right! Don’t Say Gay! Trump 2020! God Hates Gays!” Being a liberal millennial woman of color in Texas comes with many challenges —…

To Anti-Surrogacy Feminists, A quick search of the phrase “surrogacy feminism” brings up a piping hot stream of opinion pieces from either side. Both pro feminists and “anti-feminists” (crazy that people can be anti-equal rights) have their own varied thoughts on the ethics and morals of surrogacy. Phrases like “Nobody…

Whew, it’s a heavy topic. After days of procrastination, I now wonder why I didn’t write about something simple, like “the surrogacy diet.” It’s too late for that because Leigh (our graphic designer) already made the art you’re seeing to the side. So on we go. Four years ago, my…

To the Doctors Who Used Us, I was sixteen when I first knew of the damage you could do. It was also when I first learned her name. Growing up in Texas, I can’t say my high school was ever particularly interested in teaching about the complexities of black history…

a Personal Story by Cam This was first published on www.alceasurrogacy.com as the third story in our Pass the Mic blog series featuring the voices of Black women who are part of the infertility community. Join us as we #passthemic, and please pass their stories on if you wish to…